December 15, 2022
When you are the protagonist in your own story, understand the ending is up to you. How do you want to write the next chapter of your own story? Can you rewrite your character? No, because your character is “you” but you can become the champion in your own story and write the next chapter your way.
Merriam-Webster defines the protagonist as this.
: the principal character in a literary work (such as a drama or story)
: the leading actor or principal character in a television show, movie, book, etc.
: an active participant in an event
: a leader, proponent, or supporter of a cause: CHAMPION
DID YOU KNOW?
Struggle, or conflict is central to drama. The protagonist or hero of a play, novel, or film is involved in a struggle of some kind, either against someone or something else or even against his or her own emotions. So the hero is the “first struggler”, which is the literal meaning of the Greek word prōtagōnistēs. A character who opposes the hero is the antagonist, from a Greek verb that means literally “to struggle against”.
CNN had a touching video tribute to Boss and within it were the thoughts we should all keep in our own minds.
“It’s heartbreaking to hear that someone who brought so much joy to a room, was hurting so much behind closed doors,” Justin Timberlake wrote in a tribute on Instagram. “I’ve known [Boss] for over 20 years through the dance community – he always lit everything and everyone up. You just never know what someone is going through.”
You don’t know what someone is going through unless they tell you. You may guess something is wrong but not understand what’s wrong. All too often human nature causes us to internalize it. We wonder what we did wrong. When they choose to leave us, instead of talking to us, again, we blame ourselves. The what “ifs” flood our brains and we drown in unanswerable questions only the one we knew could answer.
If you are the one going through dark times, keep that in mind because the chances are, the people in your life have no idea what you are going through unless you tell them. Maybe you don’t want them to worry about you? They already are. Maybe you don’t want them to think less of you because you need help when you are the one they always turn to to help them? They won’t but they may be wondering why it’s ok with you to help them but not trust them to help you when you need it. Whatever is stopping you from turning to the people in your life, understand that is the point of having people in your life, and not just people you know the names of.
Trust them enough to take a chance and open up. If they don’t understand what it is, then they will at least know you’re hurting and need to work through it. Don’t settle for just waiting to get over it but search for those that can help you.
I have a lot of people in my life but I could be in a crowd and feel totally alone at times. When I needed help the people I love could not give, I turned to a therapist I could open up to and she’s helping me work through it. My family knows I need more help than they can give and they ok with that because they want me to be happier than I was struggling.
I am the protagonist in my own story and it is up to me to write the next chapter filled with doubts and confusion and struggles, just as each one will contain victories. Isn’t it time to take a chance at happiness?
#BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife