I wish we could find a group to talk. I have been married 28 years and read this article and felt it speaking to me. I’m constantly called names, put down and recently have been scared to be in my own home. I justified saying this is what I deserve. Yesterday my heart sank when my daughter’s counselor told her she needed a trauma counselor. It’s one thing when it’s me but hearing how it has effected my child is another the problem is why do I stay why do I not feel I deserve more why am I so scared.