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TOPIC – New Things I have tried recently

The Truth About Setting Boundaries With Family

I thought of many topics I could choose for this week’s Weekly Wednesday Blog Challenge, but setting boundaries with family have undoubtedly been my biggest challenge recently. 

This is a complex topic because most people only want to think about boundaries once they have been crossed. Setting boundaries before there is an issue is best. 

Over the last year or so, my boundaries have seriously been challenged. I have had to really step back and evaluate how I deal with people and situations. 

I am a tranquil, non-confrontational person. It is hard for me to stand up for myself. Let me explain; My blog is about mental health, self-care, and the trauma I have endured. The trauma has caused me to be extremely timid. You can read my story here to learn more about my life. 

Signs you have poor personal boundaries 

Knowing the signs of poor boundaries with family members can help you to take positive steps towards improving your relationship dynamic. 

If you find that you often feel overwhelmed or drained after spending time with your family, this may be a sign that your personal boundaries are not being respected. 

For example, do family members often come to you for advice about their own problems but don’t seem willing to reciprocate when it comes to supporting yours? If so, this could signal that there is an imbalance in the relationship, and your boundary needs may not be met. 

Here are some more signs that you need help with your boundaries:

Taking on other people’s issues, 

Feeling guilty for trying to establish your boundaries, 

Changing your identity to fit in with certain people, 

Easily being “used” or taken advantage of

Having a hard time saying “no.” 

Taking little or no time for yourself because you over-commit to everyone else 

Lower self-esteem 

Putting other people’s needs before yours 

Changing my situation by setting boundaries with family

My immediate family is exceptionally close; we treasure our time together. We watch movies, play games, cook together, and socialize when we are at home.

As hard as it is for me, I have finally found my voice and have set certain boundaries with my extended family. 

I would rather not be disturbed on my husband’s days off work. I have asked all extended family and friends not to call or text me on his days off which are Mondays and Tuesdays. I am sad to say that this has caused many arguments. 

Here are some tips for setting boundaries 

Set your limits (identify them) 

You need to inform people clearly

Don’t apologize for your boundaries 

Don’t be afraid to say “No.” 

How do you identify your boundaries?

Some boundaries are super easy; you don’t want a stranger physically touching your body. Some are much harder, like saying you don’t want your Mom telling you how to clean your house. 

I suggest sitting down and making a couple of lists. On the lists, write down things you love that bring you joy and all things you don’t like and stress you out.

These are the lists that you want to make


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Here are some examples of the types of things you want to add to your lists. 

Of course, these lists would be a lot longer and more detailed. No one will see your list, so have no filter! Set it all out there so you know exactly where you want your boundaries to be. 

A crucial step is a clear communication.

Your family, Love, friends, and work will not respect your boundaries if they don’t even know what they are. It is not fair to you or them to not be precise. 

To ensure your needs are met, honest conversations about expectations are key. Both parties need to understand what behaviors will be accepted and what consequences will follow if those boundaries are crossed. It’s also helpful to talk through potential grey areas and develop solutions that allow everyone’s needs to be respected and valid. 

Although setting boundaries can seem intimidating, implementing them allows for an improved sense of security within your family dynamic and healthy personal growth for all involved.

Don’t apologize for your boundaries.

Once you have identified the boundaries, it is important not to apologize. It is natural for other people close to you, such as family members, may not understand or agree with your decision; however, this does not mean that these boundaries are wrong or unnecessary. 

Respecting yourself by standing your ground can help build self-confidence and create healthier relationships within your family dynamic. 

Remember that everyone needs time alone, and having healthy boundaries sends a message that you value yourself enough to take care of yourself first.

Don’t be afraid to say “No.” 

As much as we want to help and be there for family, it is essential to learn how to say no when needed to protect our own mental health and well-being. When saying no is hard, it’s important to remember that setting healthy boundaries isn’t a sign of disrespect; it’s an act of self-care.

Learning to politely say no is key to maintaining a balance between real-life relationships and personal goals. By being honest about what we can or cannot do without causing hurt feelings, we can avoid overcommitting ourselves and prioritize the most important things. 

Additionally, if you feel guilty about saying no, remind yourself that you have the right to decide what works best for you – even if it means disappointing someone else.

Conclusion in setting boundaries with family

Establishing boundaries can be tough, especially when family members may not agree with or understand them. Developing healthy lines of communication and respect between all family members is vital to successful boundary setting. 

The last few months have been trying while I am to establish my personal boundaries. I enjoy researching these blog posts because it helps me find answers for myself and my readers. 

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