The institution of marriage has received all kinds of opinions about it. Some believe in it and some simply don’t see it as a necessity. No matter what you believe in, having a life partner can make living worth it.
Relationships can be tricky; you can’t just roll with anything and everything that happens in your relationships. Losing your individuality can be one of the worst things you can do to yourself in a relationship. However, sometimes you need to take a step back and observe your partner, perhaps your partner is struggling.
If your husband keeps yelling at you, it is not fair for you to just listen to them and not do anything about it. Nobody deserves to be yelled at for no reason time and again. There can be plenty of reasons for your husband to be yelling at you all the time.
All you need to do is observe your husband and your relationship from afar. Maybe you’ll get enough clarity on what’s going wrong. Is your husband struggling with something and the anger is being projected out on you or you’re being abused by the husband?
Why Does My Husband Yell At Me?
The reason behind your husband’s anger being projected at you can be anything from being too worked up to simply having a narcissistic trait. If your husband constantly yells at you know that something is wrong.
Either your husband needs help or you need to get out of that relationship. Sometimes situations are such that make husbands lose the plot or perhaps they are too full of themselves. To understand why your husband yells at you, you’ll need to do some observing.
However, here are some common reasons that can make your husband yell at you;
Overstressed: stress is one of the most common reasons for anyone to project their frustration and anger on their partner. Maybe your husband yells at you because he is too stressed. The stress can come from work or personal life.
Health Issues: when an individual experiences discomfort because of physical or mental health issues, they can be really low on patience. Therefore, wives become the easiest target to vent their frustration and anger.
Societal pressure: there is no denying the fact that men face a lot of pressure from society to achieve the masculine image and fulfill all responsibilities that are supposedly just for a man.
Personality type: one of the reasons why your husband is yelling at you can be his personality. If your husband is a narcissist or has a very controlling personality, there are high chances they might yell at you quite often.
Faulty belief system: in some cultures, for many years men were given a superior status to women. Therefore, such men have developed a belief that their wives are below them and they can use them as a prop to displace anger onto the wives.
Also, read 10 Signs You’re in a Narcissistic Marriage or Relationship
What Do I Do If My Husband Yells At Me?
If you have observed that your husband constantly yells at you, the first thing you need to do is identify the cause. Knowing the cause is important if you want to find a solution to this problem.
Some of the reasons your husband might be yelling at you we just discussed. However, these are not the only causes, there can be many other reasons so you need to observe your husband’s behavior and what is triggering their anger.
Once that is done, you can move on to finding a solution. Here are some tips for you that you can use if your husband yells at you a lot;
1. Be calm: it is very important to not add to the yelling that is being done by your husband. If you lose your temper, things will only get worse. Keep your calm and try to find out what is the matter and if the husband is in pain, how can you ease their suffering?
2. Look for temporary solutions for the moment: if your husband is yelling at you and you fear things are going too far, look for a temporary solution for the moment. It can be emotionally damaging to you as well as your husband. Therefore, opt for emotional first-aid and once things are calm, you can focus on the problem for a permanent solution.
3. Analyze the whole situation: Some things the yelling is just to mask something completely different. When your husband is yelling at you try to analyze the situation and find the real reason behind such a reaction from your husband.
Also read: Toxic Femininity, Its Impact, And What We Can Do About It (With Examples)
4. Do not blindly agree with what your husband says: there is a possibility of him just blaming you if the yelling is unnecessary and uncalled for, point it out, and do not agree with all he says if you believe otherwise. If you agree to him, you’ll be giving in to the emotional abuse.
5. Try to calm him down: sometimes the yelling may be because of some insecurity or fear and at that moment people completely lose track of what they are doing and who they are yelling at. Try to calm them down, they might be struggling.
6. Know when to leave: it is important to understand the difference between an emotionally troubled husband and one who is emotionally abusing you. If there is even a hint of emotional abuse, stop them and draw a line. If the abuse increases, know that it’s time to leave.
That’s All Folks!
I hope you found this blog about what to do when your husband yells at you helpful, interesting, and thought-provoking. Being in a relationship is never easy but knowing the difference between emotional abuse and an emotionally troubled partner is very important.
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