Autistic meltdowns are very intense involuntary responses to being overwhelmed.

Autistic people present differently during meltdowns. Reactions may be physical (e.g. kicking), emotional (e.g. crying) or verbal (e.g. shouting). Alternatively, they may shut down. It is important to know that meltdowns are not tantrums. The individual may temporarily not feel in control of their behaviour.

Common Triggers Include…

Sensory overload

Unnoticed hunger or thirst

Change in plan or routine

Anxiety

Exhaustion from masking

High demands

Unmet needs

Being unable to express needs

Fear of failure

Feeling unable to meet expectations

Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

What Could Help You During a Meltdown:

Finding a quiet space

Noise cancelling headphones or earplugs

Having a ‘safe person’ to call or go to who can help you to calm down

Anything special interest related that you can engage with

Calming music or meditation

Weighted blankets

People around you understanding

What Other People Can Do To Help:

Guide you somewhere quiet

Reduce demands as much as possible

Remove any anxiety triggers

Offer you time and space

Validate your emotions

Speak calmly and reassure you

Encourage you to ground themselves

Understand that you may say or do things which you would not usually

After a meltdown it is important to remember that your body has just experienced an intense physical and emotional reaction. Your nervous system has been in overdrive. Adrenaline will be pumping around your body.

You might feel embarrassed or ashamed, but you need to now take care of yourself to avoid burnout. You might do this by:

Having lots of rest and sleep

Fuelling your body with food

Hydrating with water

Refreshing yourself by splashing water on your face

Engaging in your special interest

Identifying the trigger and seeing if you can avoid it next time

Treating yourself with compassion

Remember: Autistic adults have meltdowns too. They can feel incredibly embarrassing and the shame that hits afterwards can be horrible. But it is not your fault. Your brain went into overdrive and your body tried to protect you.

You are loved.










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