how do you plan a wedding with a bipolar partner? agreeing to start the planning process may happen during stable “normal” mood, and then couple months in, hypomania or mania starts, they push you away, suddenly change or cancel plans that you two made months ago, they suddenly declare they don’t want to be with you, that they want to go on this or that adventure, etc. How does a partner navigate through this? Do they go along with these sudden mood changes and take what their bipolar SO says as fact? If so, do they just cancel wedding plans altogether cuz their bipolar SO now has their own, new plans? It’s difficult when there are real consequences, like financial, appointments or contracts with vendors, if you were in the process of moving in together and bipolar SO suddenly bolts, do you continue moving in on your own or do you move back to your own place or break the lease contract? so many questions… it feels really unfair when you invest so much with a bipolar SO, and then see it all just disappear or taken back in a single mood change/episode. it feels very wrong to keep wearing an engagement ring after bipolar SO gets verbally aggressive and pushes you away or tells you they have never loved you. I wish this illness never existed. Any advice other than “seek professional help, seek couples counseling” ?