Taylor: Reaching out can seem the most daunting step, especially when you have to figure out how to put your feelings into words. But this can be made easier, with a solid and safe network of people you trust and can talk to when times are tough, or by knowing who you can reach out to professionally at your university.
Emily A: It can be really challenging to ‘put yourself out there’ and find new circles to get to know. If you’re looking for support, I would recommend going with your gut and seeking support from those you have established and trusted networks with. They are likely to be the best placed to know you and how best to help you in tricky times.
Madeleine: Making the first step in reaching out can be difficult, remember to take your time and be proud of yourself for doing it, it’s not always easy. Find someone you feel comfortable with to start the conversation, maybe a friend who’s been supportive in the past. Know that while they might not have all the answers, your support network can help guide you to support and help you along the way.
Taylor: The simplest thing I was ever told to do was just listen. No comments or questions or judgements or opinions… simply just listening and making sure your friend knows that you are there to support them.
Emily A: Sometimes it can be tempting to ‘fill the void’ and continue to make it known that you are there. Whilst intentions might be great, this can sometimes do the opposite of good for those you are trying to look out for – sometimes giving time and space can be just as beneficial, allowing your friends to bridge that final part and make a move towards you for support can give them a much-needed sense of control in a difficult time. It really means the world to know somebody is there to catch them if they fall, whether you need to do any catching at all is another thing entirely.
Madeleine: The most important thing you can do as a friend of someone who is struggling with their mental health is to reassure them that you are there for them, whatever they may be going through. Creating a safe space for them to talk about how they are feeling may make all the difference. You could send them a message to check in, ask if they want to grab a coffee or send them a postcard to remind them you’re there. At the same time, if someone needs some space to feel better, it is important to allow them to come to you when they are ready.