Flow – The action or fact of moving along in a steady continuous stream; a steady continuous stream of something.
If you read my previous blog post, you know that life has been lifing these past few months. Things are finally beginning to align with the life I envision for myself. After some time spent in the darkness, the light has returned. As I reflect on the state of my mental health and how it felt like I didn’t have anything good going on for three or four months, I’m reminded that I need to trust in both divine timing and the flow of life.
Trusting the flow of my life looks like knowing that everything happens when it’s supposed to. It’s knowing that regardless of how awful things may feel, everything is always working out for me. Everything. There’s not a situation I’ve experienced that I haven’t overcome. There’s not a bad day that I haven’t made it through. There’s nothing I’ve felt or experienced that I haven’t grown through. Trusting the flow of my life allows me to shift my perspective from constantly feeling like I’m struggling or suffering, to knowing that the ups and downs are a part of the journey.
What a joy it is to wake up most days and feel peace of mind. Of course, there are some aspects of my life that I’m unhappy with and working to change, but as Jhene Aiko sings in “Magic Hour”, “It ain’t perfect, but everything’s beautiful here.”
On the bad days, I’m reminded that what I’m going through is only temporary. I’m reminded that when my inner world is at ease, I can manage any external stressors.
Flowing through life is about remaining present and moving with intention. It’s about accepting and embracing things as they are and being mindful of your reaction to things. I’ll admit, that I’m still learning how to pause and take deep belly breaths before reacting to certain situations, but I acknowledge that it takes time to completely reframe my mindset. I know I can’t control what others do, but I can control my reaction to their behavior. I know I can’t control some of life’s events, but I can control how I handle them.
When it comes to trusting the flow of your life, sitting with your feelings is essential. I often remind myself and those I care about that you have to feel in order to heal. You can’t begin healing or growing through the things you’ve experienced if you don’t first hold space for your feelings. As uncomfortable as it may be at times, this is how you learn to process and work through your thoughts and feelings. Sit with it, feel it, then release it. Know that whatever you’re feeling is valid.
During this time, it’s also important to be open to receiving. Whether it be new opportunities, new love, meaningful friendships, healing, deeper self-love, etc., remaining open to receiving the good that life has to offer allows you to move with ease and intention.
I’ve learned so many valuable lessons over the past few months, and the one that I carry with me daily is to continue loving myself through it all. I love myself through the good and bad days. I love myself through each obstacle that is sent to destroy me. I love myself from difficult endings to new beginnings.
Learn to love yourself through each stage of this journey. Learn to truly feel. Learn to be more mindful. Learn to embrace and trust the flow of your life. Life is constantly changing, and so are you.